“If you wish to move people forward, you first need to know what's holding them back.”
I dare to be who I am.
“The gap between what I was doing and who I wanted to be was getting wider. Deep within I knew this, and it felt like being untrue to myself. I ended up feeling angry and uncertain. What I wanted to learn was how to be who I really am. I had no idea how to do this. I’m a company director and it’s lonely up here at the top. I felt a real leader should be able to take care of this by himself. Thanks to Betty’s coaching I feel the confidence and the peace to really be who I am.”
I feel the courage and strength to take this next career step.
“Our organisation has restructured and this affected my role. I felt out of place and all of a sudden everything seemed to cost me an awful lot of energy. I needed to do something, but I didn’t know how to decide what to do or which direction to take. I was looking for a coach to help me see my strengths, my motivations and how to find the most fertile work environment for someone like me. I couldn’t make any big decisions until I had worked that out. Through the coaching I was able to see this. Then I felt the courage and strength to take this next career step.”
I now manage results and accountability without fear that my employees don't like me.
“Managing results and accountability became an increasingly important part of how our company wants to function. I understood and accepted this change. At the same time, it was not easy for me to start operating this way: deep inside there was a guy who just wanted to be liked. So I had to find a way to balance ‘nice’ with ‘business’ and also not lose sight of the company’s interests or lose sight of my own. Thanks to the coaching I now know how to manage results and accountability without being afraid my employees no longer like me.”
I am more convincing as a leader, thanks to developing my emotional intelligence.
“A lot of what I used to do was based on intuition: nothing wrong with that. But when emotions became involved, my effectivity would drop. I became hyper-focused, unbending and more than willing to fight for my point of view. Unfortunately this often lead to very heated discussions. I noticed this usually happened when I felt people were not taking me seriously. These situations cost tons of energy and I ended up not sleeping well. Afterwards, I’d be calm enough to talk about it, but by then the damage had already been done. I wanted to learn how better to manage my emotions. Betty taught me how to do that. Since then I feel more convincing as a leader, thanks to developing my emotional intelligence.”